WORKING THROUGH THE GRIEF
Since we are all individuals, it is not a surprise that every person handles grief differently. Most experts do agree though, that keeping the grief inside is not a healthy way to handle grief either mentally or spiritually.
Even so, some people are not willing to share their grief with others and do grieve in private.
Following are some tips on handling the loss of a beloved pet whether you wish to share your grief or keep it private.
¨ It can be very therapeutic to talk to a friend, your vet, or your pastor about the loss of your pet. It is best, of course, if that person has cherished pets of their own. Don’t be surprised if you have a dear friend who just doesn’t understand your grief. People who feel that way simply have not been in your shoes.
¨ Hold a memorial service for your pet.
¨ Spend time doing creative things. Sitting around doing little may be what you feel like doing, but it won’t help you overcome your grief. You can take photographs, draw or paint, make a scrapbook, sew, knit, crochet, sculpt, write a poem, book or song, etc.
¨ Take walks in new surroundings and notice things. Go to a place you have admired and take a walk there.
¨ Handle something you have wanted to get done like clean the house, cook, bake, clean the garage, plant a garden, cut down some bushes, etc.
¨ If you find yourself dwelling on your loss, focus on some of the fun times you had with your pet. It is certainly comforting remembering you beloved pet. Just make sure you not “living” in the past or the future. Make certain you are taking advantage of the here and now and what is going on around you.